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Where Do You Put Your Self- Esteem?


Barakallahu fiikum!


The question for myself.

Where do you put your self- esteem?

In your new house?

On your face?

In your job?

In your wealth?

In your words?

In your writing?

Or even in your blog?

My answer is just so simple, I don’t put my self- esteem there, 

I only put it in my character! 🙂

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Don’t Blame The Frog!

“A young mother was teaching her baby to walk. The cute baby followed her mom’s instructions happily. She was glad because she could walk long.
The baby tried to walk alone. Her mom was sitting on the bench controlling her. Suddenly, the baby fell and cried. Her mom ran toward the baby and said, “it’s okay! Oh come on my dear, don’t cry! Where’s the frog? Let’s catch it! Don’t cry, okay!”
(The mother blamed the frog when her baby fell)

When my son was fallen from his cycle, he beat his cycle. I saw that then asked him, “Hey dear, what was happened?”
“My cycle is bad Mom! Its brake didn’t work well.”
“Hmmm, I’ll let you know something. Your cycle doesn’t have mistake. I think you were careless just now. I just checked its brake, it’s good. Don’t blame your cycle! Listen, if it can speak like us, it’ll defend itself and says to you, (Hey Kaka, I didn’t disturb you. I’m only a cycle. So, don’t beat me).”
Kaka didn’t speak again. I guessed he tried to understand my words. I don’t want he throws his mistake to other. Perhaps it’s just a very little thing, but it’s a serious thing for me, and I must correct it. If not, I’m worried my son will fear to admit his mistake (but not to blame himself).

Let’s see the other cases!
📌 When parents saw the bad results of their children’s exams, poor parents will blame the teachers, the lessons, the school, the education system and government. They forgot something. They didn’t see the process of the exams wholly.

📍 When the teachers found the difficulties in teaching, the poor teachers will blame the students, the parents, and etc.

📣 And when the manager got failures, the poor manager usually blame his employees.
So many frogs here! 😊
Have you ever seen the cases like these, my friends?
So, if you find your governments always blame their people, perhaps as they kids, they were taught to blame the frogs. 😃

الحق من الله، والخطاء مني

Simple Tips to Improve Our Self-Confidence

السلام  عليكم  ورحمة الله  وبركاته

بارك  الله  فيكم




Just share our (poor) experiences!

I was a shy, so were my younger sister and my son. Alhamdulillah, by doing selling activity we could remove this bad character. I started to change it in Islamic Boarding School, while my younger sister did it in Junior High School.

Here are the ways:

  1. Training speech. (1998-2002)

When I was a student at Islamic School, I followed this activity twice in a week. We used Arabic, English and Bahasa Indonesia. But, after finished my school, I didn’t practice Arabic and English at all. It was about 12 years after that, I had forgotten these languages.

Talking about speech, I had ever delivered a speech in front of 5000 audiences (2010).  It was a speech competition, inter Islamic Boarding School. I was nervous, but I did it! Alhamdulillah.


  1. Training of Leadership and management. (2001)

I got this training also in Islamic School. This training was special program for the students of fifth grade. They were prepared to be boarding-school managers. They had hard duties, to manage everything; such as worship, environment, language discipline, court, art, and so on. They were like city managers.


  1. Discussion or debate. (1998-2002)

These were the routine agendas those I followed in school.

  1. Teaching activity. (In 2007-2013, I was a teacher at Islamic Elementary School)

I had made many memories in this section. First time, I got the problem in teaching, anyhow I had gotten the teaching experience in my university. I couldn’t manage the students well. They were so noisy, and didn’t pay good attention at me. I was upset. In the first day, I left them alone. I thought, being teacher needs extra patience.  Time by time, I could enjoy my profession as teacher. Alhamdulillah.  I love my students, and so did they.


  1. Selling activity (2006)

I had ever become a shopkeeper at my uncle’s shop for six month before teaching. In my opinion, it is the best way to improve our self-confidence.

My younger sister has done it. She usually sells breads as the product of her school. She really enjoyed this. She did sell well. And now, she is an active student in her university.

I’m a seller now. It has influenced to my son character. He isn’t shy to communicate to my consumers and serves them. He said to me that he liked this activity. He’s an active boy. I saw, he has changed! Alhamdulillah!

Indeed, we have proven! I’d love to hear about your experience in improving self confidence!