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When are They going to do Prayer?


Last week, there was a guest to our home. She was a friend of my mother. She came for sewing.
She and my mother talked each other while Kaka and his cousin were playing toy cars outside.

A short time later, we heard a dzuhur praying call. Kaka and Ade ran to the bathroom for taking ablution, while the adult were enjoying their talk. After took ablution, they reminded me too, “Mom, please take ablution, remember we must pray on time.” I said, “Sure, I was waiting you and now my turn to take ablution. Do prayer well, don’t too fast! Okay!”

Twenty minutes later, they saw the guest is still talking. They asked each other, “When are they going to do prayer? It was too late. Did they hear adzan (praying call)?” Their grandmother and her guest heard the questions from those kids, they smiled at the boys and said, “Yes we must cut our talk and thank you for the reminder. You’re both pious kids! Masha’Allah!” The boys smiled too, and talked about that to me.

The guest said to me, “I feel embarrass with these two boys! How can they do prayer on time?”

We didn’t force them to pray on time. We have said to them about the time of prayers, and Allah will love to the Muslims who always pray on time. Firstly, they did it since their ages 5 (Kaka) and 4 (Ade). They had a special time for watching their favorite film and its time after dzuhur prayer. They wanted to watch that film freely, so they decided to pray first before watching a movie. Since that, it was became their habits, and till now, they always pray on time, especially dzuhur. It was the story about them. Alhamdulillah, they’re like a live alarm for us. I’m really sure, they have been guided by Allah to love Islam and its precept. We, as adult have to give them a good example. We must do what we’ve talked and asked to the kids because they’ll protest us, when they see us ignored our saying.


بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

As a mother, sometimes I get troubles in parenting. I thought for long time to find the root of it. Then a few times later, I found the effective way within parenting (I’m not sure it’ll suitable for other parents).

I often discuss with the other mothers about it. A few of them have the same matters with me. My friends told me about that.

“My son only obeys his teachers but he does not obey us. I ever asked his teachers to advise my son purposely. I know that was crazy way, that I asked teacher for it, but I don’t have another way. He always do what his teachers orders.”
“It’s difficult to teach solah to my little girl. She always ask me, “Have you taken pray, Mom?” That made me upset. She doesn’t obey my orders.”

Indeed, I often get these consultations when I taught at Islamic Elementary School. They asked the effective ways in teaching their kids.


I admit, I’m not a good mother, but I’m trying to give good example to my boy as long as I can. Our action is louder than our words. So, in my opinion, this way is so effective in parenting teaching.

I try to avoid these orders;

  • Do this!
  • Do that!
  • Do pray on time!
  • Do read qur’an!
  • Do study your lessons by yourself! and etc.

As I said early, I’m trying to apply this way, and Alhamdulillah I get good results from it. I seldom ask my son to do pray or any activities. He already knows his daily schedule. It was not easy in the first time, I had to repeat the communication with him carefully, because I didn’t want to force him to do anything, but I wanted he does everything with his desire that comes from his heart and his mind.

My boy and I are in progress to practice about discussion. Discuss in a few topics, about choosing good movies, music, foods, and trying to use his times for creative activities.

I do understand the beautiful way for educating my son is by giving good example. I got this way after trial and error. I’m  really sure, you have good way in teaching and educating your kids.

There is a beautiful Arabic proverb:

اَلْقُدْوَةُ اْلحَسَنَةُ خَيْرٌ مِنَ اْلوَصِيَّةِ

A good example is better than precept.

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