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IS IT A JUSTICE???


“Social justice for all of the people of Indonesia.”  (the fifth of Five Principle of Indonesian constitution).

But, I find this reality in my country, my loving homeland.

Video about  Indonesian Legislative assembly facilities.

The poor Indonesian people and their problems, no home, no money, no hope.

The Voice Of  Ragtag

I am a human

I have not chosen to be a beggar

Nor to be a homeless

I need food

I need cloth

I need home,

Where are you , Sir?

Do you hear me as your people?

Do you remember your duty?

To do a mandate from your people.

Do you respect to the poor men like me?

Being a beggar is not my choice.

Do I have chance to change my life, Sir?

What are you doing for your people, Sir?

Will you enrich your life by your position now?

Do you respect to the homeless like me?

Being a homeless is not my choice.

Do I have chance to change my life, Sir?

Live in my homeland fairly……

فأمّا اليتيم فلا تقهر . وأمّا السائل فلا تنهر

So as for the orphan, do not oppress [him]. And as for the petitioner, do not repel [him]. Adh-Dhuha 9-10.

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Islamic Rape Laws Couldn’t Save Reyhaneh Jabbari,Wait.Why?


Punished a victim of rape by hanging was a BIG CRIME. It WAS NOT the name of Islam. How could The government of Islam country did a BIG CRIME like that? It was a fact, and was written by my sister Saadia Haq (The Author of Human Lens).

The Human Lens

Dear Sholeh, don’t cry for what you are hearing, before my death I want something from you, that you have to provide for me with all your might and in any way that you can. In fact this is the only thing I want from this world, this country and you. Please don’t cry and listen. I want you to go to the court and tell them my request. My kind mother,  the one more dear to me than my life, I don’t want to rot under the soil. Beg so that it is arranged that as soon as I am hanged my heart, kidney, eye, bones and anything that can be transplanted be taken away from my body and given to someone who needs them as a gift. I don’t want the recipient know my name, buy me a bouquet, or even pray for me. I am telling you from the…

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Indonesia: Innovative Strategies for Tackling School Violence Issues W


Written by Saadia Haq (Author of The Human Lens)  and Eva Fatmawaty

Indonesia has seen substantial rise in school violence incidents and the government’s record of addressing this issue is debatable. The violence perpetuated within the premises of an educational institution has many root-causes. Overall, the parents, teachers, school authorities and friends have their share in influencing school violence.

Then bullying makes a huge factor where certain school going bullies try to dominate and tame other students resulting in minor to catastrophic results like last month’s girl child assault in religious class.

Every bully-child has a history within his own childhood growing years that influence his or her personality shaping into a bully. It is important to understand that a child’s first learning institution is “home” and primary teachers and role modes are “parents.” Also a father and mother are the first educators for their child at home. While becoming parents is natural relatively easier, good parenting skills are harder to learn and implement. Whatever children learn it’s a reflection of what they saw or heard from their primary teachers: i.e. parents.

The latest studies on School violence and research studies on child management have come up with mechanisms for discipline children by positive methods instead of the age old methodology of the using the rod. The “Positive Discipline” methodology is based in research on children’s healthy development and founded on child rights principles.

Positive Discipline
Positive Discipline

Positive discipline is not permissiveness nor is it about punishment. It is about long -term solutions that develop children’s own self-discipline and their life-long skills. Positive discipline is about teaching non-violence, empathy, self-respect, human rights and respect for others. It focuses on capacity building of parents and secondary role models of children i.e. teachers.

In Indonesia, adhering to child rights needs, the Positive Discipline programme was initiated in late 2012 and since then, teachers at 16 primary and junior high schools have participated in different training workshops. The approach has been done into partnership with UNICEF, Save The Children and Learn Without Fear Campaign, Plan International.

The program has also been introduced into the troublesome province of West Papua that has an appalling human rights atrocities and conflict record heavily censored by the Indonesian government.

At home, for parents this programme brings innovative mechanisms. How so? The Positive Discipline for parents includes:

  • It is an in-built mechanism as a universal program for the typical families facing typical challenges, rather than just focusing on “high-risk” families.
  • It is based in attachment, relationships and communication, rather than rewards and punishments.
  • It helps to build on parents’ strengths
  • It is encompassing all stages of childhood, from birth to adolescence.
  • It helps parents learn how to problem-solve across a wide range of situations, rather than prescribing “what to do when”.
  • It comes from a child rights perspective, so it focuses on enhancing mutual respect between parents and children.
  • It is originated as a culturally inclusive approach and mainstreamed as “parenting universals”.

In schools and classrooms, the students are under the supervision of their teachers. For the teachers, the Positive Discipline approach includes a variety of strategies:

  • It is s based on established pedagogical principles, as well as child rights principles.
  • It considers the long-term impact of the teaching relationship on children’s lives and attitudes toward learning.
  • It helps teachers learn how to provide effective mentorship within a safe learning environment.
  • It provides relevant information about children’s neurological, intellectual and social development from birth to adolescence.
  • It recognizes the importance of individual differences in children’s experiences, temperaments and information processing.
  • It focuses on problem-solving rather than rewards and punishment

Any form of violence has a very long-lasting and consequential effect on a child’s mind. And there is no doubt that parents and the teachers have a strong role and responsibility in guiding the children towards becoming positive persons and attain skills to behave in socially acceptable ways.

Through programs like “Positive Discipline” it is hoped that more and more parents and teachers will be enabled to guide children in many constructive ways that are counter strategies for the eradication of school violence from the society.  Indonesia has taken its initial steps that will help address the concerns of violence against children in a long run to come.

 

Sources:

  1. http://resourcecentre.savethechildren.se/sites/default/files/documents/4871.pdf
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Indonesia; Coping With Social Acceptance of Violence in Elementary Schools


Written by Eva Fatmawaty and Saadia Haq (The  author of The human Lens)

Violence has always been part of societies in some form or other and it’s not bound to specific geographical locations. And school violence, basically, is any form of violent activity that takes place within the premises of schools. Usually it is perpetuated by students themselves, school administration staff and teaching faculty and can take soft to hard forms through bullying, verbal abuse, brawls, physical fights and in some cases using arm shooting.

Violence within schools is not new to Indonesia, a country where societal norms make it acceptable the use of stick for disciplining children and youngsters. Recently there was a public outcry after a youtube video was uploaded focusing the incident of an elementary school student (Kekerasan Anak SD).

The video contained explicit footage of a female student being bullied by several of her class mates. She was cornered by the bully group of five assailants that kicked and punched her, while the rest of the classroom either ignored or watched on.

This incident sent shock waves within the Indonesian society and has raised many disturbing arguments. Indonesia has the fourth largest population in the world, with one third making children. The Indonesian State Minister for Women’s Empowerment and Child Protection, Ms. Linda Gumelar, recently stated that the country is facing great constraints in mainstreaming child rights issues and there is a huge need for improving the capacity to deliver better protection of children.

The recent traumatizing event hints deeper issues at work here. The incident cannot be ignored solely in isolation because the alarming statistics of this year’s survey conducted by the National Child Protection Commission.

A high percentage of 87.6 percent of 1,026 children respondents said that they suffered from mental, physical or verbal abuse, ranging from name calling to beatings. More ever, the classmates were identified as the source of bullying by 42.1 percent of respondents. Then ill-treatment of school going children is also reported to have happened at the hands of the administration and teachers at a ratio of 29.9% and 28% of abuse is perpetuated by non-teaching personnel such as janitors and security guards.

The Indonesian government struggles to enact strong measures for better child protection during educational lives, but is clearly lagging behind. The State constitution says that “that every citizen has the right to an education and for that 20% of the state budget is allocated for making it a possibility.” But owing to the greater demands due to booming population, the State is barely making to the minimum standards for education, let alone putting anti-bullying mechanism in schooling systems.

Inside Indonesia, this harrowing gap is being filled by developmental organizations. One such organization is PLAN-International whose Indonesia based work is focusing on “Learn Without Fear Campaign.” It aims to end violence in schools and work on the betterment of engaging with children and parents for bringing positive life changes.

Violence is an outrageous violation of children’s fundamental rights. Now the question begets? What really happened to the little girl that was bullied at the SD Trisula Perwari private elementary school in Bukittinggi, West Sumatra? Where was the teacher at the time of the incident?

The elementary investigative team states that one enabling factor was the teacher’s negligence. How come this could happen during an Islamic religion lesson at the school? Does this mean that Indonesian parents should demand more checks to be placed on the religious teachers qualifications for adequate supervision for pupils. Otherwise, how could it be possible that a little girl’s beating went neglected and unreported till late?

 

Source citation:

  1. PLAN Indonesia Learn Without Fear Campaign
  2. National Child Protection Commission, 2014 Report
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SAVE OUR CHILDREN AND WOMEN FROM HUMAN TRAFFICKING WITH ISLAMIC SOLUTIONS


The examples of trafficking cases :

Sukabumi police investigate alleged human trafficking case
Sukabumi, W Java (ANTARA News) – Police in Sukabumi district, West Java, Indonesia are investigating a possible human trafficking case involving three residents of Parungkuda sub-district.
“We will study the case and ask for information from their families to learn about the alleged human trafficking case which involved residents of Sukabumi district. The three victims are allegedly being locked up in a factory in the Malaysian state of Serawak,” the head of the woman and child protection unit at the Sukabumi district police, Brigadier Agus Nugroho, said here on Friday. Read more here.
Hati-hati! Perdagangan Anak Makin Marak
REPUBLIKA.CO.ID, MEDAN– Kasus perdagangan anak kembali terkuak. Kali ini terjadi di Kota Medan, Sumatera Utara pada 6 Februari 2014 lalu. Seorang Ibu membeli anak bayi kepada Bidan berinisial H boru Purba (57) seharga Rp12 juta. Read more here.
Indonesian Woman Falls Victim to Human Trafficking in US
TEMPO.COJakarta – A former bank financial analyst, Shandra Woworuntu, became a victim of human trafficking in the United States when she was 25 years old. Fortunately, she was able to escape her kidnappers by jumping out of a bathroom window in Brooklyn.Read more here.
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Shandra Woworuntu, an Indonesian who falls victim to a human trafficking crime in New York. facebook.com

Indonesia is one of big countries in this world. It has large regions, with high population, many religions, but low level in education, economy, and health. It is very complicated country, and it is not easy for government to manage all sections well. One of huge issue is TRAFFICKING. It is not a new issue, because it has been happening for over thirteen years.

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The map of human trafficking in Indonesia

Indonesia is a source, transit, and destination country for women, children, and men trafficked for the purposes of commercial sexual exploitation and forced labor. The greatest threat of trafficking facing Indonesian men and women is that posed by conditions of forced labor and debt bondage in more developed Asian countries and the Middle East.(Wikipedia).

Several facts that caused trafficking :

There are many causes of human trafficking in Indonesia, including poverty, lack of employment opportunities, unequal gender roles, and community and family pressures to employ children. A cultural acceptance of a young marrying age for girls often leads to false marriages or failed marriages; following which, the girls are sometimes forced into prostitution.

Children are particularly vulnerable due to the fact that a quarter of junior secondary school age students do not attend school. Though the law provides for free education, in practice most schools are not free of charge, and poverty places education out of reach for many children. Furthermore, 60 percent of children under 5 years old do not have official birth certificates, putting them at risk of trafficking.

            The victims of trafficking:

Children.

A ‘child victim of trafficking’ is any person under the age of 18 who is recruited, transported, transferred, harboured or received for the purpose of exploitation, either within or outside a country. Child trafficking affects children throughout the world, in both industrialized and developing countries. Trafficked children are often subjected to prostitution, forced into marriage or illegally adopted; they provide cheap or unpaid labour, work as house servants or beggars, are recruited into armed groups and are used for sports. Trafficking exposes children to violence, sexual abuse and HIV infection and violates their rights to be protected, grow up in a family environment and have access to education.

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In Bali, women and children are for “sale’ http://www.globalindonesianvoices.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/Bali_human_trafficking.jpg

The invisible and clandestine nature of trafficking and the lack of strong data collection make it difficult to know the global number of child victims. However, it is estimated that some 1.2 million children are trafficked worldwide every year. At the global level, human trafficking for sexual exploitation is reported more frequently than other forms such as trafficking for forced labour, and remains the third most profitable illicit trade, after that of arms and drugs.

 

Women.

            Indonesian women are particularly vulnerable to trafficking for sexual and labor exploitation. It is estimated that between 69 to 75 percent of all overseas Indonesian workers are female, the vast majority working as domestic workers. The number of Indonesian women who reported being subjected to rape while working as domestic workers in 2010 appears to be on the rise. Based on a 2010 survey, a respected Indonesian NGO noted that during the year 471 Indonesian migrants returned from the Middle East pregnant as the result of rape, and an additional 161 returned with children who had been born in the Middle East.

  The Indonesian government’s efforts in solving trafficking:

During 2010, the government undertook efforts to improve coordination and reporting of its anti-trafficking efforts.

Indonesia passed a comprehensive anti-trafficking bill in April 2007 that criminalizes debt bondage, labor exploitation, sexual exploitation, and transnational and internal trafficking. Penalties range from three to 15 years of imprisonment. In March 2011, Indonesia’s parliament passed a new immigration law that provides punishments of up to two years’ imprisonment for officials found guilty of aiding and abetting human trafficking or people smuggling. The new law also links human trafficking and people smuggling, allowing traffickers to be prosecuted for the crime of smuggling.

The Indonesian government continued modest but uneven efforts to protect victims of trafficking during 2010. The Ministry of Social Welfare continues to operate 22 shelters and trauma clinics for victims of sex and labor trafficking and the National Police operate several “integrated service centers,” which provide medical services to victims of violence and trafficking. However, the government relies significantly on international organizations and NGOs for the provision of services to victims and only provides limited funding to domestic NGOs and civil society groups that support such services.

The Indonesian Government is making efforts to coordinate all of its local anti-trafficking task forces and government agencies, under a single national anti-trafficking task force, on policy and implementation of its national action plan. The government, often in collaboration with NGOs and international organizations, runs public awareness campaigns and service announcements to alert vulnerable populations to the dangers of trafficking and to provide assistance information to victims.

Police liaison officers are posted to Indonesian embassies in Saudi Arabia, Malaysia, Australia, the Philippines, and Thailand to support law enforcement cooperation with host governments, including trafficking investigations. During 2010, the government expanded its collaboration with foreign partners and NGOs in the training of law enforcement officials on trafficking.

The Indonesian government should do:

The Indonesian government has done several efforts to stop this issue, but it seems didn’t work well. The government did not enact necessary migrant worker legislation or apply sufficient criminal sanctions to labor recruiters who subject Indonesian migrants to labor trafficking. Moreover, the government did not demonstrate vigorous efforts to investigate, prosecute, and criminally punish law enforcement officials complicit in human trafficking, and this remains a severe impediment to the government’s and NGOs’ anti-trafficking efforts. Besides that, Indonesia has the main problem, it is corruption. It remains endemic in Indonesia, and members of the security forces, immigration officials and government employees continue to be involved both directly and indirectly in trafficking. Criticisms and complaints include police association with brothels, mainly through the collection of protection money; passive investigations into trafficking; falsification of labor brokers’ licenses; and failure to properly screen passports and the acceptance of bribes at immigration control. Despite these reports, the government did not report any investigations, prosecutions, convictions, or sentences of officials for such trafficking-related offenses in 2010.

The stake holders of Indonesia should do the previous efforts seriously, consistently, and effectively. They can try the other ways to solve it, for instances:

  • Improved on education system the whole lot, and allocate a lot of fund in it.
  • Keep vocation for men with a good wage system. It prevent women go to abroad finding job to fulfill their principle commodity.

In Islam, women have high position. The men should protect them. Woman is created from right ribs of man, so don’t make her as a back bone.

  • The government should make a high immigration control to prevent illegal tourist.

The U.S. Department of State recommends that the Indonesian government enact the following measures in its 2011 TIP Report:

  • Enact draft legislation to provide effective protections to Indonesian migrants recruited for work abroad, particularly female domestic workers;
  • Undertake greater efforts to criminally prosecute and punish labor recruitment agencies involved in trafficking and the illicit recruitment practices that facilitate trafficking, including the charging of recruitment fees that are grossly disproportionate to the services that recruiters provide;
  • Increase efforts to prosecute and convict public officials – particularly law enforcement and Ministry of Manpower officials who are involved in trafficking;
  • Augment efforts to protect domestic workers within Indonesia, particularly children, through law enforcement, public awareness and assistance to families;
  • Improve the collection, analysis, and public reporting of comprehensive data on law enforcement actions taken under the 2007 law;
  • Prosecute and punish those who obtain commercial sexual services from children;
  • Increase government funding for the rescue, recovery, and reintegration of trafficking victims;
  • Improve coordination with other labor sending governments, with the goal of creating a regional migration framework that protects workers from human trafficking and exploitation; and
  • Increase efforts to combat trafficking through awareness campaigns targeted at the public and law enforcement personnel in source regions.

Islam offers the solutions for all problems:

From all references I have taken from many resources, I don’t find the articles that offer Islamic solutions for stopping human trafficking. Many of the authors offered the solutions according to International Human Right or duplicating from other countries, such as from developed countries. So did the Indonesian government.

            The Indonesian constitution adopted from Royal Dutch Constitution. The Indonesian founders leaved Qurán and Sunnah, whereas a lot of moslems became martyrs in war time. Today, we can see many problems here.

Allah has said in Surah Al-A’raaf verse 96;

وَلَوْ أَنَّ أَهْلَ الْقُرَى آمَنُوْا  وَاتّقَوْا  لَفَتَحْنَا عَلَيْهِمْ بَرَكَاتٍ مِّنَ  السَّمَاءِ وَالْاَرْضِ

وَلكِنْ كَذّبُوْا فَأَخَذْنَاهُمْ بِمَا كَانُوْا يَكْسِبُوْنَ

But if the people of these regions had believed and feared God, We would surely have showered on them blessings of the heavens and the earth; but they only denied, and We punished them for their deeds. [7:96]

The verse above is as guarantee from Allah to all believers. Subhanallah, but remember Allah will not change the bad situation from a people, except they change it by themselves.

His angels keep watch over him in succession (night and day), in front and behind, by God’s command. Verily God does not change the state of a people till they change themselves. When God intends misfortune for a people no one can avert it, and no savior will they have apart from Him. [13:11].

Islam has offered Qurán and Hadith as the guidance for all part of life. Not only rules for sholat but also education, economy, politic, constitution, rules of war, social and culture, and many things. Qurán itself is the source of all sources of law, and hadith is as the second law. Just back to Qurán and sunnah, change all laws/ constitutions, and manage this country according Allah’s rules. Is it difficult? Of course, but there is the pure aim, to get the guarantee from Allah. If not, the problem will never finish, because the root of this problem is the system of government itself, maybe we should read this verse.

Allah present the example of a town which enjoyed peace and security, its provisions coming from everywhere in abundance, but it denied the favors of Allah; so Allah acquainted it with intimate hunger and fear (as punishment) for what they had done. [16:112].

            Will the Indonesian government use Islamic rules to solve this issue?

Let’s wait and see!

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DO THE CHILDREN OF PALESTINE PLAYING LIKE ME, MOM ?


I watched the news about Gaza, almost everyday  and so did My son. He liked news program on Televisions. Indonesian channels and Al manar channel. He asked me everything about Gaza. He was very enthusiastic to know it. And the title above was one of his questions.

Who is the killer, Mom? Palestine or Israel? Are all Palestinians muslim? Why did Israel attack Palestine? What should we do then?

Really, I couldn’t  answer his questions directly. I thaught hard for a moment finding a good way to explain that issue. I took my notebook, then played a video of Gaza, it was about The Children of Palestine.

“ Look at this video, Son! ”

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Kaka soon watched it enthusiastic. But, it was not long before, he talked to me.

“ See them, Mom! How adorable they are! I’d be fun to play with them. Do they playing like me, Mom? Riding a bicycle, going to the river and everywhere?”

He was so right, they were so adorable, Masha’Allah.

“ I’m sorry, Dear, I don’t know exactly, it seems to me that they’re so hard enjoying their childhood. I can’t  imagine about it. But, I salute of them. They’re braves children. They don’t afraid of Israel soldiers. They ever counterattack Israel with the stones.”

I took a deep breath. Then gave him advise.

“ You’re so lucky, Son. Here, in our country, you can play and do everything nicely. You can establish prayers and read quran at Masjid freely. Alhamdulillah. They can’t do these, these children and a lot of Palestinians can’t establish prayers at Al Aqsho. That we know, Al Aqsho is their Masjid.”

“ How pity they are!” Kaka responded it sadly. He stared at me, “ Why did Israel attack Palestine?”

I looked at him, “ Someday you’ll know about it, My dear!”

“ What can we do for my friends there?”

“ My Son, if you wish, you can pray for them in your prayers.”

“ How?” Kaka wanted to know it’s way.

“ You can pray to Allah with your own words, O ..Allah, keep the Palestinians and help them. It’s enough for you, to pray for them.”

“ Okay, I’ll do. It’s so easy.” Kaka responded my explanation.

“ Do you still remember about Surah Al Fill ? It tells about Abrahah and his soldiers who wanted destruction Kabah.”

“ Oh yes, and The Ababils destroyed Abrahah and his soldiers, right Mom?” He answered surely, and smiled widely.

“ That’s true. We should believe in Allah. He is the Almighty. If Allah will, it’s very…very easy for Him to make Israel as Abrahah and his soldiers. Just send them The Ababils or the other of Allah’s troops. Do you believe it?”

“ Yes, Mom. I do.”

“ Allah knows the best for Palestine. Do keep them in your prayers, Son!” Finally I asked him to pray for Palestine.

Insha’Allah, Allah will helps  them ( The Palestinians ) and accepts their struggles.

Allah says in surah Lukman verse 18;

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” And do not turn your cheek [ in contempt ] toward people and do not walk trough the earth exultantly. Indeed, Allah does not like everyone self- deluded and boastful.” 

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SAVE OUR CHILDREN FROM SEXUAL PREDATORS ! !


JISCase after case of rape against children are increasingly being heard . Not just girls who are victims , but also boys . Their neat school uniforms , but they become the victims of rape . Ironically , the incident occurred at an International Kindergarten School in Jakarta, Indonesia . Perpetrators who were arrested , identified as a janitors at the school . Allegedly there are other actors besides them , because the victims are reported to KPAI (Indonesian Child Protection Commission)  increased by one of the disciples .

Is the Schools as the safest place ?
Rape case that occurred in the school, ( as the second of the safest places after the house ) is not for the first time . Televisions and newspapers in this country have often includes cases that make parents sad . The man is supposed to provide educational instruction and education to their students , even with the cold claimed honors the students .

Why did this case become trending topics in various media ? The main reason is, who becomes the victim is a toddler ( new kindergarten students aged 5-6 years ) . It is an act of sexual violence against children . Undeniably, the child victim will experience an interruption in infancy . Children do not understand, what is SEX ? , Why adults who have a certain animal / vile sex crimes to him . Is there a sexual deviation on the perpetrators ? .
Experts from various disciplines ( psychology and medical ) , have categorized these actors act as a sexual perversion . They tend to like children as objects of sexual outlet . They are not homosexual , because it could be they do sexual crimes to the girls , as a father who sexually abusing a daughter who was 18 months old . That is very sad .It is named Phedophilia.

We can see the means of Pedophilia on wikipedia below:

Pedophilia or paedophilia is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children, generally age 11 years or younger. As a medical diagnosis, specific criteria for the disorder extends the cut-off point for prepubescence to age 13.A person who is diagnosed with pedophilia must be at least 16 years of age, but adolescents who are 16 years of age or older must be at least five years older than the prepubescent child before the attraction can be diagnosed as pedophilia.

Pedophilia has a range of definitions, as found in psychiatry,psychology, the vernacular, and law enforcement. The International Classification of Diseases (ICD) defines it as a “disorder of adult personality and behaviour” in which there is a sexual preference for children of prepubertal or earlypubertal age.It is termed pedophilic disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), and the manual defines it as a paraphilia in which adults or adolescents 16 years of age or older have intense and recurrent sexual urges towards and fantasies about prepubescent children that they have either acted on or which cause them distress or interpersonal difficulty.

james vaheyNow, it is about Phedophilia actors news from abroad who eventually committed suicide after raping 90 children in various countries .

The Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) is seeking the public’s assistance to identify alleged victims of a suspected international child predator. William James Vahey, a 64-year-old U.S. citizen, was a suspect in an international sex crimes investigation who committed suicide on March 21, 2014. His alleged victims were American and international students enrolled in private schools abroad where Vahey taught, beginning in 1972. Read more

The Parents Should do…….
1 . Providing sexual education from an early age
The parents should give understanding to children with a language that is easily understood by them , which of the parts of the body that may be touched and which ones should not be touched by others . In sha Allah , your child will understand . I also started to provide understanding about this to my son , and he knew what to do . Another person , who was not allowed to touch his penis , because it includes the genitalia must be covered and protected . But , we don’t need to discuss too much about the function of their reproductive organs .
2 . Trying to accompany the children at all times .
The Children pre-school age, need love , protection from parents and other family . Give our children the freedom of expression , interests and talents , growing and develop naturally , enjoying their childhood .
It does look extreme if we had to accompany our kids at any time . But , crime / violence against children outside so rampant . We certainly do not want bad things befall our children . Indeed ,it doesn’t mean, hold our children wherever they go , I mean give freedom and accompanied by supervision . Do not let parents off guard .
3 . Do not trust others easily.
According to my experience as an educator , I saw the students escorted to school by motorcycle drivers , helpers , or neighbors . Alhamdulillah , so far I didn’t heard a bad thing that happened to the children . The teachers , school guards , and the parents were very compact safeguard children . Although not their biological children , but other parents who felt equally responsible to protect other students . School was also the same , didn’t allow children go home if they don’t picked up by parents , or by people who actually believed by their parents .
There have been instances in other places , a daughter who received the indecent treatment of a regular motorcycle driver who drove her . It is a signal , that parents should actually selectively choose someone else to take shuttle their children , if in case shuttle could not escort their children to school .
I am as a mother , trying to take care my son. In sha Allah , hopefully I can .I should give the best for him.

This is in accordance with the words of the Prophet Muhammad. :
اكرموا أولادكم واحسن ادابهم

(رواه ابن ماجه عن ابن عباس رضي الله عنه)
Meaning:
Glorify your children and bring them good manners. (Narrated by Ibn Majah from Ibn `Abbas.)

ikon anak-anakProtecting children from sexual crimes and other violent behavior is our responsibility , not only parents , but also the schools , and the government especially the Ministry of Education and Culture . The government should provide strict requirements to the parties who want to establish an educational institution . So it can be ascertained that the institution actually serves as a quality educational institution and provide a sense of security to all of the students to study at the venue. Similarly, the school , should be more strict and selective in choosing prospective teachers , sanitation workers and the security , so that the child sexual crimes are not repeated . Party policy makers too , must pay attention to the exact layout of the school , to minimize the chances of sexual crimes . The crime occurred not because there is the intention of the perpetrators , but because there is an opportunity to commit a crime .
It is time for us, to protect our children from sexual predators . If not us , who else ? If not now , so  when?
References:

http://www.merdeka.com/tag/k/kasus-pencabulan-di-jis/tak-punya-izin-tk-jis-ditutup-kemendikbud.html

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Masih Adakah Tempat Yang Aman Untuk Anak-Anak?


Hati saya sangat miris, saat melihat berita di TV, ada kasus pelecehan seksual terhadap anak laki-laki di sebuah sekolah TK Internasional di Jakarta. Peristiwa memilukan ini terjadi di sekolah, yang seharusnya merupakan tempat yang sangat aman dan nyaman untuk belajar dan berinteraksi sosial.

Beberapa tahun terakhir ini, di negeriku ini, seringkali saya menyaksikan berita-berita tentang kekerasan terhadap anak, yang pelakunya malah orang-orang terdekat. Astaghfirullah.

Ada apa dengan ini semua? Sudah begitu hancurkah moral orang-orang dewasa, yang seharusnya melindungi anak-anak?

Kekerasan yang dilakukan oleh seorang ayah terhadap anak

Saya yakin, anda pun sangat sering melihat peristiwa seperti berikut ini:

  •         Bayi yang dibunuh oleh orang tuanya sendiri, karena malu, atau alasan ekonomi dan lainnya.
  •        Janin yang terpaksa direnggut hak hidupnya oleh ibunya sendiri.
  •        Anak perempuan usia 5 tahun yang diperkosa oleh teman-teman mainnya,
  •        Anak perempuan yang direnggut kehormatannya oleh ayahnya, kakeknya, kakaknya, pamannya sendiri.
  •        Ayah yang menganiaya anak laki-lakinya yang tidak bisa mengerjakan PR,
  •        Ayah yang melakukan kejahatan seksual terhadap anak laki-lakinya.
  •        Ibu yang depresi, melemparkan bayinya dari lantai tingkat 5, dan kejahatan lainnya yang saya tak sanggup untuk mengurainya.

Saya hanya mampu berdo’a ,, ya Allah..lindungilah putera hamba dan seluruh anak-anak di bumi ini dari kejahatan orang-orang yang bermoral hina.

Ya Allah, lindungilah kami para orang tua dari kemarahan yang tak terkirakan, dan berilah kami kesabaran dalam mengasuh, merawat dan mendidik anak-anak kami.

Masih adakah tempat yang aman untuk anak-anak kita?

Sejenak, saya mengenang masa kecil saya dulu. Sungguh, saya sebagai anak-anak, merasakan kebahagiaan yang sempurna sebagai anak, rasa aman ketika sekolah dan bermain. Lingkungan yang ramah, tetangga yang baik, dan teman-teman yang berkarakter lugu khas anak-anak. Kami bermain, bersekolah, dan melalui masa kanak-kanak kami dengan tuntas. Tidak pernah saya dengar peristiwa kejahatan terhadap anak-anak seperti saat ini.

Sekarang, saat dunia ada dalam genggaman, yang seharusnya memberikan lebih banyak manfaat, malah terlalu banyak mudharatnya. Kemajuan teknologi seringkali menawarkan dua sisi, MANFAAT dan MUDHARAT, tergantung kepada subjek dari teknologi tersebut.

Internet itu memberikan segala jenis informasi dan tontonan yang dicari para penggunanya. Pengguna internet yang bermoral, dia akan mengambil semua informasi yang positif saja, begitu pun sebaliknya. Kemajuan informasi tentu sedikit banyak membawa pengaruh atas peristiwa kelam di atas tadi.

Ketimpangan ekonomi, kecanduan terhadap narkoba pun masih menjadi penyumbang dari sebab-sebab terjadinya berbagai kejahatan terhadap anak. Anak memanglah manusia yang masih lemah, karena mereka memang manusia-manusia yang masih memerlukan bantuan untuk tumbuh dan berkembang menjadi manusia mandiri. Jikalau benih-benih kecil ini, dicerabuti dari akarnya, diganggu pertumbuhannya,manakah mungkin mereka bisa tumbuh sempurna?

Kembali ke awal tulisan saya, tentang tempat kejahatan ini, rumah, sekolah, keduanya termasuk ke dalam peristiwa kejahatan dimana semua itu terjadi. Rumah, tempat yang sejatinya benar-benar menjadi tempat aman yang pertama untuk anak, sedikit tercoreng keamanannya. Hanya di rumah-rumah yang para orang tuanya menyirami anak-anaknya dengan kasih sayang berlimpah, di situlah anak-anak dapat tumbuh dengan baik.

Yang kedua, sekolah. Sekolah adalah tempat kedua teraman seharusnya, di mana para orang tua percaya dan tenang menitipkan buah hati mereka untuk belajar dan berinteraksi dengan teman-temannya. Jika, kejahatan terhadap anak, bisa terjadi di sekolah, lantas di mana lagi kah anak-anak mendapatkan keamanan dalam hidupnya. Bukan sekali, dua kali, sekolah menjadi tempat pelecehan seksual, guru yang melakukan tindakan pelecehan seksual terhadap murid-murid wanita, ustadz yang melakukan tindakan amoral kepada para santriwatinya. Apakah ini kejahatan yang biasa saja?, saya pikir ini sungguh bukan kriminal biasa. Karena kehormatan yang telah direnggut oleh para bocah ini ( baik itu perempuan atau pun laki-laki ) pastinya akan menyisakan lembaran suram dalam kehidupan mereka. Siapa yang akan menjaga mereka, jika para orang tua, orang-orang dewasa sudah tak lagi menaruh kasih sayang dan perlindungan kepada anak-anak. Di mana lagi mereka akan menghabiskan waktu kanak-kanak mereka jika, rumah, sekolah, madrasah, bahkan masjid pun sudah tak lagi aman untuk mereka.

Sungguh, saya hanya bisa berdo’a dan terus berdo’a agar diri ini bisa menjaga buah hati saya dengan sebaik-baiknya.

  •       Semoga, masih ada senyum lugu nan ceria yang menghiasi wajah anak-anak kita.
  •       Semoga masih ada semangat untuk meraih masa depan yang terpancar dari anak-anak kita.
  •       Semoga masih banyak orang dewasa yang peduli terhadap anak-anak.
  •       Dan semoga masih banyak tempat yang aman dan ramah terhadap anak-anak. Ameen.

Anak-anak kita merindukan keamanan, kesejahteraan, dan juga kebahagiaan di masa kanak-kanaknya.

Berikut ini sedikit contoh  berita- berita tentang kejahatan terhadap anak:

  1. http://nasional.kompas.com/read/2014/04/19/0352470/Fenomena.Gunung.Es.Kasus.Pedofilia
  2. http://www.tempo.co/topik/masalah/1230/Kekerasan-Terhadap-Anak
  3. http://www.beritasingkat.com/berita/Bapak+Asal+Pekanbaru+ini+Aniaya+Anaknya+Hingga+Babak+Belur