Case after case of rape against children are increasingly being heard . Not just girls who are victims , but also boys . Their neat school uniforms , but they become the victims of rape . Ironically , the incident occurred at an International Kindergarten School in Jakarta, Indonesia . Perpetrators who were arrested , identified as a janitors at the school . Allegedly there are other actors besides them , because the victims are reported to KPAI (Indonesian Child Protection Commission) increased by one of the disciples .
Is the Schools as the safest place ?
Rape case that occurred in the school, ( as the second of the safest places after the house ) is not for the first time . Televisions and newspapers in this country have often includes cases that make parents sad . The man is supposed to provide educational instruction and education to their students , even with the cold claimed honors the students .
Why did this case become trending topics in various media ? The main reason is, who becomes the victim is a toddler ( new kindergarten students aged 5-6 years ) . It is an act of sexual violence against children . Undeniably, the child victim will experience an interruption in infancy . Children do not understand, what is SEX ? , Why adults who have a certain animal / vile sex crimes to him . Is there a sexual deviation on the perpetrators ? .
Experts from various disciplines ( psychology and medical ) , have categorized these actors act as a sexual perversion . They tend to like children as objects of sexual outlet . They are not homosexual , because it could be they do sexual crimes to the girls , as a father who sexually abusing a daughter who was 18 months old . That is very sad .It is named Phedophilia.
We can see the means of Pedophilia on wikipedia below:
Pedophilia or paedophilia is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children, generally age 11 years or younger. As a medical diagnosis, specific criteria for the disorder extends the cut-off point for prepubescence to age 13.A person who is diagnosed with pedophilia must be at least 16 years of age, but adolescents who are 16 years of age or older must be at least five years older than the prepubescent child before the attraction can be diagnosed as pedophilia.
Pedophilia has a range of definitions, as found in psychiatry,psychology, the vernacular, and law enforcement. The International Classification of Diseases (ICD) defines it as a “disorder of adult personality and behaviour” in which there is a sexual preference for children of prepubertal or earlypubertal age.It is termed pedophilic disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), and the manual defines it as a paraphilia in which adults or adolescents 16 years of age or older have intense and recurrent sexual urges towards and fantasies about prepubescent children that they have either acted on or which cause them distress or interpersonal difficulty.
The Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) is seeking the public’s assistance to identify alleged victims of a suspected international child predator. William James Vahey, a 64-year-old U.S. citizen, was a suspect in an international sex crimes investigation who committed suicide on March 21, 2014. His alleged victims were American and international students enrolled in private schools abroad where Vahey taught, beginning in 1972. Read more
The Parents Should do…….
1 . Providing sexual education from an early age
The parents should give understanding to children with a language that is easily understood by them , which of the parts of the body that may be touched and which ones should not be touched by others . In sha Allah , your child will understand . I also started to provide understanding about this to my son , and he knew what to do . Another person , who was not allowed to touch his penis , because it includes the genitalia must be covered and protected . But , we don’t need to discuss too much about the function of their reproductive organs .
2 . Trying to accompany the children at all times .
The Children pre-school age, need love , protection from parents and other family . Give our children the freedom of expression , interests and talents , growing and develop naturally , enjoying their childhood .
It does look extreme if we had to accompany our kids at any time . But , crime / violence against children outside so rampant . We certainly do not want bad things befall our children . Indeed ,it doesn’t mean, hold our children wherever they go , I mean give freedom and accompanied by supervision . Do not let parents off guard .
3 . Do not trust others easily.
According to my experience as an educator , I saw the students escorted to school by motorcycle drivers , helpers , or neighbors . Alhamdulillah , so far I didn’t heard a bad thing that happened to the children . The teachers , school guards , and the parents were very compact safeguard children . Although not their biological children , but other parents who felt equally responsible to protect other students . School was also the same , didn’t allow children go home if they don’t picked up by parents , or by people who actually believed by their parents .
There have been instances in other places , a daughter who received the indecent treatment of a regular motorcycle driver who drove her . It is a signal , that parents should actually selectively choose someone else to take shuttle their children , if in case shuttle could not escort their children to school .
I am as a mother , trying to take care my son. In sha Allah , hopefully I can .I should give the best for him.
This is in accordance with the words of the Prophet Muhammad. :
اكرموا أولادكم واحسن ادابهم
(رواه ابن ماجه عن ابن عباس رضي الله عنه)
Glorify your children and bring them good manners. (Narrated by Ibn Majah from Ibn `Abbas.)
Protecting children from sexual crimes and other violent behavior is our responsibility , not only parents , but also the schools , and the government especially the Ministry of Education and Culture . The government should provide strict requirements to the parties who want to establish an educational institution . So it can be ascertained that the institution actually serves as a quality educational institution and provide a sense of security to all of the students to study at the venue. Similarly, the school , should be more strict and selective in choosing prospective teachers , sanitation workers and the security , so that the child sexual crimes are not repeated . Party policy makers too , must pay attention to the exact layout of the school , to minimize the chances of sexual crimes . The crime occurred not because there is the intention of the perpetrators , but because there is an opportunity to commit a crime .
It is time for us, to protect our children from sexual predators . If not us , who else ? If not now , so when?